There was a time when I enjoyed checking Facebook to see what my friends and family were up to. I extolled its virtues to parents I knew who were reluctant and didn’t get it. I set up my house-bound sister-in-law with an account because I thought it was such a great way for her to keep in touch.
Excepting the user interface, which has always been and remains inexplicably bad, I loved Facebook. I really did. But now, Facebook has become just a chore.
I still check it every few days, but I dread doing so. I put the task off. It’s an obligation, not a joy. When I go, I still skim the feed and pause on some items. I even comment and like posts from my friends. I just don’t much enjoy the process anymore.
The same is true for posting myself. I feel obligated to post pictures of my son’s graduation or my daughter’s choir performances. If I don’t, it looks like my family never does anything. I also share news stories sometimes, just to be out there and present. That’s really the only reason I post on Facebook, though: to keep up appearances and not be left out.
That’s not a very good reason. I can’t even pinpoint why I have come to dislike spending time on Facebook (although it may be along the lines of Brian Gardner and Shauna Niequist’s “perfect life” issue), but I’m not the only one who has fallen out of love with it. You see regular articles about people who have abandoned Facebook. Some studies show that users are less engaged and youth, particularly teens, are moving elsewhere.
At the same time, I still see friends on Facebook who post constantly and apparently maintain their love affair. Facebook says it’s doing fine with teens. And there is no doubt that the site remains a mainstay in many people’s lives—even if, like me, their relationship with Facebook is more like the one with their mother-in-law than their lover.
So, is your love affair with Facebook over and, if so, why? Tell me what you think using the comments on this Clipsi board. I’ve created two zones: Facebook Rising Tide and Facebook Sinking Ship, and included clips from studies and from articles other people have written. Pick a side and weigh in. Is Facebook still working for you? If not, why?
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